Judah and Tamar

Judah and Tamar

Question of the day: Who is someone you haven't seen in a long time that you would like to see?

This morning we are going to tackle a very weird story.  I had decided that I would skip this story and just continue with the story of Joseph, however.... I decided that it is very important to the story down the line so we will tackle it today!  It is quite a story with so much we can glean!  Hope you join us!!!!

Judah and Tamar

38 At that time, Judah left his brothers and went down to stay with a man of Adullam named Hirah. 2 There Judah met the daughter of a Canaanite man named Shua. He married her and made love to her; 3 she became pregnant and gave birth to a son, who was named Er. 4 She conceived again and gave birth to a son and named him Onan. 5 She gave birth to still another son and named him Shelah. It was at Kezib that she gave birth to him.

6 Judah got a wife for Er, his firstborn, and her name was Tamar. 7 But Er, Judah’s firstborn, was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death.

8 Then Judah said to Onan, “Sleep with your brother’s wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.” 9 But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother. 10 What he did was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death also.

11 Judah then said to his daughter-in-law Tamar, “Live as a widow in your father’s household until my son Shelah grows up.” For he thought, “He may die too, just like his brothers.” So Tamar went to live in her father’s household.

12 After a long time Judah’s wife, the daughter of Shua, died. When Judah had recovered from his grief, he went up to Timnah, to the men who were shearing his sheep, and his friend Hirah the Adullamite went with him.

13 When Tamar was told, “Your father-in-law is on his way to Timnah to shear his sheep,” 14 she took off her widow’s clothes, covered herself with a veil to disguise herself, and then sat down at the entrance to Enaim, which is on the road to Timnah. For she saw that, though Shelahhad now grown up, she had not been given to him as his wife.

15 When Judah saw her, he thought she was a prostitute, for she had covered her face. 16 Not realizing that she was his daughter-in-law, he went over to her by the roadside and said, “Come now, let me sleep with you.”

“And what will you give me to sleep with you?” she asked.

17 “I’ll send you a young goat from my flock,” he said.

“Will you give me something as a pledge until you send it?” she asked.

18 He said, “What pledge should I give you?”

“Your seal and its cord, and the staff in your hand,” she answered. So he gave them to her and slept with her, and she became pregnant by him.19 After she left, she took off her veil and put on her widow’s clothesagain.

20 Meanwhile Judah sent the young goat by his friend the Adullamite in order to get his pledge back from the woman, but he did not find her.21 He asked the men who lived there, “Where is the shrine prostitute who was beside the road at Enaim?”

“There hasn’t been any shrine prostitute here,” they said.

22 So he went back to Judah and said, “I didn’t find her. Besides, the men who lived there said, ‘There hasn’t been any shrine prostitute here.’”

23 Then Judah said, “Let her keep what she has, or we will become a laughingstock. After all, I did send her this young goat, but you didn’t find her.”

24 About three months later Judah was told, “Your daughter-in-law Tamar is guilty of prostitution, and as a result she is now pregnant.”

Judah said, “Bring her out and have her burned to death!”

25 As she was being brought out, she sent a message to her father-in-law. “I am pregnant by the man who owns these,” she said. And she added, “See if you recognize whose seal and cord and staff these are.”

26 Judah recognized them and said, “She is more righteous than I, since I wouldn’t give her to my son Shelah.” And he did not sleep with her again.

27 When the time came for her to give birth, there were twin boys in her womb. 28 As she was giving birth, one of them put out his hand; so the midwife took a scarlet thread and tied it on his wrist and said, “This one came out first.” 29 But when he drew back his hand, his brother came out, and she said, “So this is how you have broken out!” And he was named Perez.[a] 30 Then his brother, who had the scarlet thread on his wrist, came out. And he was named Zerah.

What a story! 

We are going to look at this lesson by tackling it one character at a time.  

First let's look at Tamar.

What was her life like?

How did she handle it?

What can we take away from who she is/was...

What are some words that you would use to describe her experience....

Abused, rejected, used... what else?

Her first husband was terrible.... We don't know what that means but he wasn't good.  We can imagine.  Maybe abusive, in multiple ways... 

Second husband, rejected her and used her. 

What was her response?

How is she redeemed?

Where else do we see her in the bible?

JUDAH

What do we know about Judah?

Who was his mother?

So where was his place in his family?

What happened and what role did he play in last weeks lesson?

In someways I want to call him a "half cafe" man.  Trying, to appear to do what is OK.  Not great, not the worst.  

Why is this story important?

We will unpack more of this as we see him throughout the story of Joseph, but this is a turning point in his life.

Why?

How does this story end?

Anna last night pointed out to me, how in the lineage Jesus comes from once again the least...

What is our takeaway from this lesson?

Life application?

There is a lot, but my favorite is this...

We see in this story, a family chosen to be part of the redemptive story and yet they are messed up.  Jesus didn't come from royalty but from all kinds of family mess.  He wasn't church royalty or political royalty.  Why is this important?

HE IS KING OF ALL!

HE EXPERIENCED NO ADVANTAGE OVER US!

YET HE STILL LIVED A LIFE THAT ENABLED HIM TO PAY THE PRICE!

HE IS CAME TO SAVE ALL, BE KING OF ALL, BE LORD OF ALL.

KNOW LOVE.

LIVE LOVE.

SHARE LOVE.